So what about the not so happy accidents?

Ok...yes what about them?

You know the ones I'm talking about --- the losing your keys, your wallet, locking the car door with the keys still inside, leaving your purse in the freaking grocery cart.  What's up with these not so happy accidents.  My "little miss perfect" voice has no problem telling me what's going on --- "You're not being responsible, you're distracted and not being aware of your surroundings, you're not taking care of your things, yada yada".  And when I hear her voice I also pick up a big old baseball bat and beat myself up.

But a good friend brought to my attention today that perhaps that's the whole point of my co-creating the unhappy accidents.  Because if I believe I co-create the "serendipities", then I gotta own up to the fact that I co-create the not so happy accidents yes?  And why do you suppose I need to do that?  My good friend noted that my reaction to these not so happy accidents points to the fact that there's something I need to work through and perhaps something I've been avoiding.  To which my reply was geeeees...how much more beating up myself with a bat do I need to experience, before I get it.....that I'm not treating myself with the same kindness and compassion that I believe I have for others.  How does the saying go? "If there is to be peace in the home there must be peace in the heart", Lao Tsu.  How can I legitimately give unconditional love to others if I can't give it to myself? 

So perhaps the not so happy accidents are just that --- my higher self and the universe saying, "dear one, you need to be kind to yourself today.  Take a look at how you're reacting to what's just happened....and not with judgement but with kindness.  And with kindness you'll see the reality there....you are a good person in spite of losing your keys. Heck you are a beautiful, unique, whole, creative person BECAUSE you've lost your keys and I love you with or without those darned keys.

Not that I want to lose those freaking keys all the time......but I can appreciate the lesson.  So to whom ever found my ENSO clock and has decided not to return it.....I hope you find it useful as it served me well and I know I'm OK without it just the same!